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Postby grlnxtdr29 on March 27th, 2010, 12:43 am

Recipe Sharing forum in the General Discussions Forum? I Love to cook, and Love to share recipes.
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Re: How about a...

Postby Kath on March 27th, 2010, 12:47 am

grlnxtdr29 wrote:Recipe Sharing forum in the General Discussions Forum? I Love to cook, and Love to share recipes.


There is a recipe sharing topic... I'll bump it up. Maybe it should be made sticky? Terri?
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Re: How about a...

Postby TomEC on January 10th, 2011, 3:02 pm

Is there a list of rules of behavior somewhere on this forum?

One of the things I love about this place is it’s laid back and easygoing nature. That statement at the top of the page “grab a tea, pull up a chair and chat with friends,” really does some up this place for me and I don’t want that to ever change. I’ve been to other forums where mean-spirited comments and flame wars abound and I don’t want to join in there. This place is a refuge.

Some people pontificate against “political correctness” and, taken to extreme, PC can be absolutely ridiculous. Still, what’s wrong with taking people’s feelings and sensibilities into consideration even when we don’t share them? You only have to look at the poisonous, corrosive atmosphere in many places on the net to see where not doing so can lead. In my opinion offending others without good cause is just mean and that’s not who I want to be.

Still, I crave reassurance. I fear one person in danger of giving offense on this site is me. When I have something to say, I usefully end up saying more than I intended. I’ve gotten in trouble many times for my motor mouth. I never mean any harm, and people who know me usually understand and say “another zinger from Tom.” Theresa is wonderful about giving hints when she senses that I’m getting a little over exuberant and in danger of saying something stupid. I really don’t know what I’d do without her. It’s not so bad as it used to be. I am growing up. When I was little, my language skills far outpaced my mental and emotional development (weird for a boy, I know) and I frequently found myself an object of fun for both adults and older kids. :oops: I guess I’m a little sensitive about that even now.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I don’t want mess up and fear that I might without a bit of help. Over time, I’m confident that I’ll get a better feel for where the line really is. I don't think it's rocket science and I do have my share of working gray matter. In the meantime any suggestions and help from all of you would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: How about a...

Postby wren on January 11th, 2011, 9:45 am

TomEC wrote:Is there a list of rules of behavior somewhere on this forum?

One of the things I love about this place is it’s laid back and easygoing nature. That statement at the top of the page “grab a tea, pull up a chair and chat with friends,” really does some up this place for me and I don’t want that to ever change. I’ve been to other forums where mean-spirited comments and flame wars abound and I don’t want to join in there. This place is a refuge.

Some people pontificate against “political correctness” and, taken to extreme, PC can be absolutely ridiculous. Still, what’s wrong with taking people’s feelings and sensibilities into consideration even when we don’t share them? You only have to look at the poisonous, corrosive atmosphere in many places on the net to see where not doing so can lead. In my opinion offending others without good cause is just mean and that’s not who I want to be.

Still, I crave reassurance. I fear one person in danger of giving offense on this site is me. When I have something to say, I usefully end up saying more than I intended. I’ve gotten in trouble many times for my motor mouth. I never mean any harm, and people who know me usually understand and say “another zinger from Tom.” Theresa is wonderful about giving hints when she senses that I’m getting a little over exuberant and in danger of saying something stupid. I really don’t know what I’d do without her. It’s not so bad as it used to be. I am growing up. When I was little, my language skills far outpaced my mental and emotional development (weird for a boy, I know) and I frequently found myself an object of fun for both adults and older kids. :oops: I guess I’m a little sensitive about that even now.

I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I don’t want mess up and fear that I might without a bit of help. Over time, I’m confident that I’ll get a better feel for where the line really is. I don't think it's rocket science and I do have my share of working gray matter. In the meantime any suggestions and help from all of you would be greatly appreciated.




In general, Thomas, you can't go wrong if you think of this as Lynsay's cyberhome. Be polite, respectful, kind, & compassionate...everyone here comes from different backgrounds, has different beliefs & values, are all in a different place in our journey in life, but we are all fans of Lynsay Sands and we are all equals as people. We try to focus more on what we have in common, which is why the GTKY & QQ quizzes are so helpful. Though we discuss our differences...it would be boring if we were all just alike...we don't talk much about politics, religion, sexual orientation, or other topics that can become heated debates. Instead, we may talk generally just to answer someone's question & get to know one another better, because we don't wish to break up the harmony of our group. It's the flaming debates over those kinds of topics that cause forums to be uncomfortable and people to leave. While we all must stand up for what we believe, there is a time & place for everything, and this forum belongs to Lynsay Sands and its purpose is what you see stated at the top..."grab a tea, pull up a chair, and chat with friends"...so we center most of our fun & chat around Lynsay's work. It's not so much that we are being politically correct, since that's a topic we all have differences of opinion about, too. It is simply about being courteous to one another.

Following Lynsay's leadership, we resolved a long time ago to be welcoming to everyone, whether long-time forum members or newbies, because we want to be friends with other fans of Lynsay's books. Many of us have been on forums that were cliquish where newbies feel like outsiders and aren't welcomed, and on forums with so many rules that people are afraid to post. Lynsay doesn't run her forum that way. She prefers to be a hands-on moderator & is relaxed here, and that has always been the way she wants to be with her readers. We did have another moderator for a time, but even when busy with writing, that just isn't the way Lynsay works best. This is the place she most enjoys keeping "in touch" with her readers & fans closest to her. Lynsay gets to know us so well that we all become friends, and she will fret and worry about her active forum members if we're gone very long. That's why we have a "check-in" thread & a "I'll be MIA" thread to share what's happening in our lives for her & each other. Lynsay never takes us for granted, which is why we have such a devoted, close group on our forum. She encourages us and in turn, we encourage her & each other. She is just as busy as other authors but she makes the time for us, so the forum reflects who she really is...an approachable person with an amazing talent for writing who is fun to be around and has ups & downs in her life just like we do. She is genuine and that is all she expects from us in return.

Remember that it's sometimes difficult to get tone into text, so always ask a person to clarify if you didn't understand a post, rather than having hurt feelings. We don't judge each other on spelling, grammar, typos, etc. When we are posting, it's often busy and we don't worry about the little things. Being a part of Lynsay's official forum is a privilege, and the very best guideline is to treat each other as we would if we were all guests in Lynsay's real home, remembering that we came together to discuss her books & have fun together. Also, let me reassure you that you are already a valued member of this group. We enjoy having you with us and your posts have all been very nice and insightful. Lynsay allows us a lot of leniency in "having fun" though we try to keep it rated PG-13 as anyone can read the forum, even if they're not a registered member. If you happen to step over "a line," a fellow forum friend will not be the one to tell you what you can or cannot do. Lynsay or Terri will contact you privately if there is ever a problem. I'm not saying we never post things we shouldn't...in three years, I have been involved a couple of times where the discussion or game got out of hand and we went over the lines where friends weren't being friendly to one another...but it was handled off the forum in polite emails from Lynsay or Terri, and if needed, posts were deleted. If it's a group issue, Lynsay will post her final say on the matter and then we move on. Hey, we're people and we aren't perfect, and Lynsay doesn't expect us to be, but she will deal with anything that causes a group problem. Also, if we ever have questions about something we want to post & are unsure if it's okay, or notice anything on the forum that's questionable, or have problems with the forum or another member or any other private matter, we email Terri at admin@lynsaysands.net, and she will get back with us as quickly as possible. For general topics, we have Terri's section on the boards for our questions.

Don't worry, my friend...you are the first guy on the forum in awhile, but you are doing fine. 8-) I hope your presence encourages some of Lynsay's other male readers be comfortable joining the official group! :D
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Re: How about a...

Postby TomEC on January 11th, 2011, 12:17 pm

wren wrote:
In general, Thomas, you can't go wrong if you think of this as Lynsay's cyberhome. Be polite, respectful, kind, & compassionate...everyone here comes from different backgrounds, has different beliefs & values, are all in a different place in our journey in life, but we are all fans of Lynsay Sands and we are all equals as people. We try to focus more on what we have in common, which is why the GTKY & QQ quizzes are so helpful. Though we discuss our differences...it would be boring if we were all just alike...we don't talk much about politics, religion, sexual orientation, or other topics that can become heated debates. Instead, we may talk generally just to answer someone's question & get to know one another better, because we don't wish to break up the harmony of our group. :D


Thanks wren, That's more or less how I thought it was. I'm just new to this whole forum thing and wanted to get it right. Thanks for laying it all down like that. I thinks us newbies need stuff like that spelled out for us just to make us feel better. It worked for me. I will direct new one to posts like this in the future. As for more guys on the forum, I don't know. Then I wouldn't have you all to myself. Oh well, maybe we could start a thread about cars or power tools or sports. Seriously, if my presence here can help some of my fellow males feel more comfortable about joining, I'm always happy to help.
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Re: How about a...

Postby susan60625 on January 11th, 2011, 2:53 pm

TomEC wrote:Oh well, maybe we could start a thread about cars or power tools or sports.

Don't worry about sports, here. It does creep in occasionally. You should have been here last year when Wren was throwing down with the WhoDat Nation! The Saints were here everywhere! But then, I can't complain, because when the Black Hawks won the Stanley Cup last year, I was over the moon about it here, as well.
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Re: How about a...

Postby TomEC on January 11th, 2011, 3:24 pm

I have to admit, I'm not like my brothers when it comes to sports (they live and breath it). I have two sports I follow, hockey (I'm Canadian; it's in the DNA) and football. The Gretzky era made me an Oiler fan though I haven't had much to cheer about over the last twenty years. In football well... I'm from Saskatchewan and that can only mean I cheer for the Saskatchewan Roughriders of the Canadian Football League. The mood of the whole province seems to hang on how the Green and White are doing. And since for years our main export was people to the rest of the country, Rider fans from coast to coast pull together whenever they're doing well. Someone even hung a Roughrider banner at the base-camp at Mount Everest. "Go Riders!"
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Re: How about a...

Postby Lynsay on January 11th, 2011, 8:24 pm

Thank you, Wren. You said it perfectly.

Tomas, we just try to respect each other. Do that and you're good. If you step over a line, Wren is right, Terri or I will contact you and try to fix things. There have been members banned in the past.I didn't always agree or even know about it at the time. It was with the previous moderator, which is why Terri and I are the moderators now. Terri, by the way, aside from being my assistant, is my sister. Not sure if that was mentioned here before.

We do want a comfortable, safe place here for readers. I too have been on forums and such where it got nasty and people were attacking each other and such. That's just not my thing. I bow out of those kinds of places and I won't ever have that happen here. I'd ban people, erase posts and resort to shutting it down if it took place here. That's part of the reason we have the 30 posts or so before people are free to post without approval, to get a handle on what they're like. Also to prevent the people who come on just to sell something, or to post porn.

As Wren basically said, everyone here is a welcome guest. But I'll toss people out on their butt if they misbehave too badly, just as I would in my own home. And yes, I'd tackle the job myself in my home. I'm kind of like a chihuahua and don't always remember I'm maybe not the strongest chick in the world when my dander is up or I'm protecting others. Fortunately, I am lucky enough to have good friends and loved ones who always have my back in real life or in person, just like these guys have my back here and step in when I'm not on the ball.

Don't worry. You'll be fine.

Now, part of the reason that there aren't more men here is that for the three years before I took it over, the previous moderator apparently discouraged men from joining, refusing and erasing posts and banning addresses. The previous moderator also handled my facebook and immediately erased posts and refused friend requests from males there too. I only found this out when I took over and if I could write all those guys an apology I would. I get letters from loads of men who read my books. I've even got letters from whole companies of soldiers who pass my books around amongst their fellow squad members (I think company is the right word. As I recall they sign their letters with "Private/Sergeant/whatever so and so, from X company." I get so many letters it's sometimes hard to remember particulars.) Anyway, there are loads of male readers out there who just weren't made to feel welcome. I regret this, because I would have welcomed them. But I'm sure more men will join up eventually....Sorry Tomas (grin)

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Re: How about a...

Postby wren on January 11th, 2011, 9:05 pm

Lynsay wrote:Thank you, Wren. You said it perfectly.

Now, part of the reason that there aren't more men here is that for the three years before I took it over, the previous moderator apparently discouraged men from joining, refusing and erasing posts and banning addresses. The previous moderator also handled my facebook and immediately erased posts and refused friend requests from males there too. I only found this out when I took over and if I could write all those guys an apology I would. I get letters from loads of men who read my books. I've even got letters from whole companies of soldiers who pass my books around amongst their fellow squad members (I think company is the right word. As I recall they sign their letters with "Private/Sergeant/whatever so and so, from X company." I get so many letters it's sometimes hard to remember particulars.) Anyway, there are loads of male readers out there who just weren't made to feel welcome. I regret this, because I would have welcomed them. But I'm sure more men will join up eventually....Sorry Tomas (grin)

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Thank you, Lynsay. It makes me feel good when I've done well representing you & the forum.

Also, thanks for clarifying about the previous moderator and our male readers out there. I would have done so, but didn't feel that part was my place. Many men read both the Argeneaus & the Historical books. My nephew works for the railroads, and your books are passed around when they're having to wait. He told the guys in our family just how good your books are, and he had never even read the Argeneau series at that time.

Lots of people get introduced and a "turn" is made just by passing on a single book. That's what we call it, Thomas, when we get another person hooked on Lynsay's books...making a turn. Let us know when you make your first, because we'll all celebrate with you. I think if we could actually be together at Lynsay's place, all we would do is read & party! :lol: We're still hoping to have an 'Immortals' (that means just us forum friends) Conference with Lynsay someday...but we're still working out how to get us there from all over the world! 8-)

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Re: How about a...

Postby rockie on January 11th, 2011, 9:11 pm

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Lynsay wrote:Thank you, Wren. You said it perfectly.

Now, part of the reason that there aren't more men here is that for the three years before I took it over, the previous moderator apparently discouraged men from joining, refusing and erasing posts and banning addresses. The previous moderator also handled my facebook and immediately erased posts and refused friend requests from males there too. I only found this out when I took over and if I could write all those guys an apology I would. I get letters from loads of men who read my books. I've even got letters from whole companies of soldiers who pass my books around amongst their fellow squad members (I think company is the right word. As I recall they sign their letters with "Private/Sergeant/whatever so and so, from X company." I get so many letters it's sometimes hard to remember particulars.) Anyway, there are loads of male readers out there who just weren't made to feel welcome. I regret this, because I would have welcomed them. But I'm sure more men will join up eventually....Sorry Tomas (grin)

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Thank you, Lynsay. It makes me feel good when I've done well representing you & the forum.

Also, thanks for clarifying about the previous moderator and our male readers out there. I would have done so, but didn't feel that part was my place. Many men read both the Argeneaus & the Historical books. My nephew works for the railroads, and your books are passed around when they're having to wait. He told the guys in our family just how good your books are, and he had never even read the Argeneau series at that time.

Lots of people get introduced and a "turn" is made just by passing on a single book. That's what we call it, Thomas, when we get another person hooked on Lynsay's books...making a turn. Let us know when you make your first, because we'll all celebrate with you. I think if we could actually be together at Lynsay's place, all we would do is read & party! :lol: We're still hoping to have an 'Immortals' (that means just us forum friends) Conference with Lynsay someday...but we're still working out how to get us there from all over the world! 8-)



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